"Everything and anything may change us, but we start and end as a family"
One of the greatest thing that I envy and adore about Ethan, is the relationship that he builds with his family. If you dont know Ethan personally, you will see him as someone who has no love, could care less about everything including his friends and family.....but when you get to know Ethan, you will come to see that he's a great person with a good heart who has unconditional love for his friends and family. Out of all his cousins, I can see that he cares most about his "3 sisters" To everyone, these sisters are only his real life cousins, but to Ethan, I know that he sees them not only as his cousins, but more so as his "sisters". And this is where....BBM comes in.
I've heard some stories about her past...but that's after I have gotten to know her. I remember the first time I saw her, it was very unexpected. Ethan called me to tell me that his sister wanted to meet me, and that we were going over to her house for dinner. I remembered I asked Ethan "How many people will be there?" He answered me "Just 5....my 3 sisters and us two." I thought to myself...."Ok, just 5, thats not TOO bad....." But when we showed up at her house, there was.....1,2,3,4,5,6,7......yup! 7.....for dinner, then a few more showed up after dinner. I know that I should feel flattered because they were there for me and to meet me for the first time, but everything was so unexpected, and because I knew how much Ethan cared for his sister, I wanted her to like me. From dinner, I can see the kind of personality that lies in her.The three qualities that caught my attention was....Straightforward, Demanding, Controlling.....To some people, actually~maybe to most people, this may sound bad. After you get to know her, you realize that these 3 qualities in her are actually on the positive side, its 3 good qualities. ....She is straightforward because she doesnt like to keep things bottled up inside. She wants to be as truthful as possible, as honest as she can be. Demanding only because she cares for the well being of others, she wants to have what is truly the best for herself and for the people she cares about. Controlling because she doesnt want to see other people get hurt. She likes to be our protection, a shield that protects us from getting hurt from anything. It's just like being parents. We always think our parents are mean, confusing, annoying.....but they only want what's best for us, because they are the people who love us the most. In BBM, I see this quality. After dinner, we talked more and more....it was very awkward at first, because we didnt have a topic that we can both talk about. But as we got to know each other more and more, we now cant stop talking! She slowly became a part of my life.
Now, when I see her, I see her sweetness, her naive, her kindness, her unselfish heart....and the love that she has for the people that she cares about. Her sweetness~~~I know through some people's eyes, we sometimes see and think that she doesnt sacrifice more than her significant other, and that he loves her more than she loves him.....but what I came to realize is the love and affection that she shows him when we are not around. A relationship takes two to be able to work it out, and in their relationship, I see two. Her naive~~~she is a very gullible person, one who believes everything she hears, never doubts her family and friends, and who would give a stranger 100% of her trust. She is someone who is also known as "Believing that everyone is innocent until proven guilty." Her kindness~~~No matter how one treats her in life, she is someone who will suck in the bad, and still put on a smile, just to make the people around her feel better. Her unselfish heart~~~out of all her qualities, to me, this is the most touching quality of her. She not only opened her heart to accept me and my past, but she also opened up her home to me. She slowly walked into my life, and now there is not a weekend that goes by without me seeing her.
Out of the 4 BB's, she is the most fragile one. Looking at her, makes the people around her want to care for her and love her even more. But, as much as I know she appreciates it, she rather care for others than have people care for her. There are so many "THANK YOU" I want to say to her, but seems like actions speak stronger than words. I want to use my love and effort to show her how much I appreciate all the things she does for me as well as show her how much I care for her. There is no way for me to repay her back right now, so the only thing I can do is to treat and love Ethan even more because I know that she cares for him just as much. And that seeing Ethan happy, will also put a smile on her face too.
Next year, she will be walking down the aisle, and the man that she will be spending the rest of her life with, is a very lucky man. Seeing her walk down the aisle, I know that I will shed tears of joy. Its just like seeing my very own sister finding her true happiness and living the "happily ever after" life. There's nothing more I want than to see her smile, because when she is happy, I am happy.
I dont know what the future may be for Ethan and I, but no matter what happens, she has already walked into my life, and became a part of it. I not only see her as a friend, but also my sister....my dearest BBM!
The love of a family is life's greatest blessing.
"The family you come from isnt as important as the family you're going to have"
*~Katelyn~*